Comments on: I Said I Was Sorry

By: JoLynne

JoLynne — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 10:43:12 +0000

I agree with you Dave many people say they love Jesus, but he is not their Lord. Many times our head gets in the way. We allow satan to make us think it’s about us! we just need to get out of the way of ourselves, so God can do what is needed.

By: Jenelle

Jenelle — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 08:11:34 +0000

Casey, that certainly is food for thought…but I’m thinkin marinara sauce and maple syrup…uhhhh…I think I’m going to be sick…

MarkG, thank you, though I find myself apologizing to those who hurt me. It is not gratifying to model good behavior to one who brings grief and resentment. It IS good to forgive and forget –but it is also good to choose friends and companions who seek to bring joy into the world and into my walk with them.

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By: Kristi

Kristi — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 02:05:22 +0000

Just re-reading this after months of having it bookmarked… This is so good. The failure to understand this, which developed into a deeply rooted pattern, is a large part of the reason my marriage didn’t make it. I was so hurt, over and over (and there wasn’t just “I said I was sorry” but bullying and threatening),and after several years of it I just gave up trying and poured myself into being a mom. Now I’m a single-mom – a very happy single-mom actually, too. I don’t have to feel neglected, hurt, or unloved anymore. Anyway, I think this is very valuable information for anyone – male or female, and if I ever remarry, I plan to put it to good use.

By: Skye

Skye — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 21:32:57 +0000

Send her a long-thought out letter. In time she will read it. Apologize for what you have done, why you love and need her. Tell her what you are willing to change and how you are going to make those changes happen. Best of luck toyou.

By: Anon

Anon — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:59:03 +0000

Words cannot adequately express how graciously overwhelmed I feel having just read this blog and, in particular, the final three paragraphs.

Thank you Mark and thank you God.

By: Barb Porto

Barb Porto — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:50:17 +0000

Your poor wife, being compared to an elephant. That is not nice, but probably very acurate when it comes to the woman’s mind and all that she keeps filed away. I can totally relate to that! I feel sorry for the men in our lives though. =0(

By: Barb Porto

Barb Porto — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:49:03 +0000

This is sooo funny. I know men and women are engineered differently, but you put it in everyday terms that apply too our daily struggles in anyone’s marriage. Grudges are hard to get rid off and although I forgive…………..I never forget.I have prayed over this issue for many years and after 18 yrs of marriage, I still struggle and have to bite my tongue at times.

Thanks for your insight.

By: Daryl

Daryl — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 22:41:20 +0000

This is certainly the case in my marriage. I used to call my wife the elephant because she never forgets…but now I know and understand why. It is one thing to say you are sorry, which men have to be very good at, but it is quite another thing to continually reinforce those words with actions that speak how sorry we are. As with all your comments this is a general thing and I think most men recognize that women operate differently and it does take time to resolve the things we do or say. I think the ‘sorry box’ is an easy way to assuage our guilt and remove from men the obligation to work at the real sorry ….our actions!

By: Vinnie

Vinnie — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 08:13:02 +0000

I’ve been to your entire course: Laugh your way to a better marriage, and yes I now see my wife in a different and better light. But boy-o-boy, it’s very difficult for my wife to say sorry for anything that she’s done wrong. She just simply beleives that she’s right in verything that she says & does, and that is difficult. Most times I can not tell her how I feel about something, because she will defend the thing I’m saying, even when it has nothing to do with her. Maybe woman should have an ‘apology box’, of vist their husband’s box sometimes.