Comments on: Cutting America’s Divorce Rate

By: Grace

Grace — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 12:13:52 +0000

Good reading but only if we could really do that. I’m currently in such a situation. My husband has committed adultery and filed for divorce but after 2 years of separation I’d rather go to counseling and repair the marriage.

By: John

John — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 23:35:22 +0000

What wisdom

By: AJP

AJP — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 13:07:37 +0000

The Catholic Church has been doing this for years. Its different in each Diocese, however, it is practiced very similarly. In addition Catholic Marriages aren’t easily annulled. The process is long and arduous.

Check out the Archdiocese of Miami where there is a ministry called CAMINO (“The Path”) that has a two day workshop couples must attend before they marry.

It works and they have saved couples from marrying without true commitment and preparing those who are committed for a great start.

I guess what I’m saying is whether you understand the Catholic Church, it may be worth taking a look at so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel.

By: Denis

Denis — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 03:32:15 +0000

Don’t forget that Christians are not suppose to take other Christians to court. This includes Christians that are married to each other.

I am currently in the middle of this very situation. Please pray for me and my wife. I don’t want a divorce, but have no ability to do anything about it.

By: Randy Y.

Randy Y. — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 16:11:08 +0000

My wife left me 9 months ago and has recently asked me for a divorce. She now has a boyfriend and says there’s nothing left in our marriage for her to want to try and work it out. I’ve begged and pleaded. I’ve given her space and let her go. She wants out because she says she no longer loves me and now says she’s not sure that she ever really did. After 12 yrs. of marriage 5 yrs. of dateing and two wonderful kids. She is able to justify her actions by lieing to herself and there hasn’t been anything that the 1 million tears I’ve cried been able to do about anything. I’ve never felt more helpless in my life. Divorce is one of the major reasons that this wonderful country of ours just isn’t that wonderful anymore. It is now the land of broken dreams and empty promises. I pray for all who suffer the same unfortunate end to thier marriage. I believe that I have a hole in my heart that will never be filled. I do believe that God will take care of me. That though, this was not his plan for my marriage. I believe he will carry me to the next chapter of my life and set me down a much stronger man with an even more special love to give to someone. Someone who will appreciate it. A love that knows how fragile every single day of a marriage is…God bless you all.

By: Joanne

Joanne — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 14:01:24 +0000

I am amazed at the number of people who twist things so they can justify their divorce. “He says means things when we fight” is called abuse (and in all of those complaints, the wife is just as mean or worse!) Or “he says he likes this other girl” is called adultery. People go into marriage with the wrong mindset too. “For better or for worse” is looked at as an either/or option instead of “no matter what.” “Till death” has come to mean “until my love for you dies.” I agree 100% something Mark said on his radio show not long ago – the #1 reason for divorce is simply selfishness.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 13:53:25 +0000

I 100% agree with this article. I am remarried as my 1st husband ended our 2 1/2 year marriage due to many issues that we were equal party to.

I was and still am of the belief, “once married, always married”. I truly believe the vows I took but sadly, this is not out my 1st marriage ended.

I am grateful to God that He gave me a fresh start and the perfect husband. We’ve been married for 14 years and still act like we are newly married; it’s a beautiful thing.

We have definitely had our struggles; the 1st 7 years were very much a test of our love but we overcame all and are stronger than ever.

We have watched the Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage & took the personality test; of course we occupy opposite countries but it works. We now know how to approach the other to have our views really looked at & understood.

Mark, I want to thank you for listening to God, which I firmly beleive gave you an enlightened understanding of men & women. The way you bring across our differences is in the funniest but easy to understand.

Thank you for helping my marriage in taking it to the next level. May God continue to bless your ministry!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 13:49:45 +0000

In my humble opinion I feel family of origin issues are part of the tap root for major issues in marriages. Friends of mine who I know their parents or of their extended family begin to ‘act’ like them later in their marraiges. Whether it be nit picking of the other spouse, not engaging with the kids, ignoring your mate, or expressed views of how marriage should be.

This type of issue should be looked at and discussed before marriage. Red flags can’t be changed to green ones unless an individual wants to change. No amount of nagging, pointing out a wrong, reading an article, or going to church will turn the flag colors around. (I’m not refering to the Flag Page).

By: Carol

Carol — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 03:20:54 +0000

Dear Rhonda

Thank you for your reply. kenny, my current husband, and I have talked about this situation many times and his response has always been to let the past go. He feels that since my ex has remarried he isn’t dwelling on the past,so why should I. In his opinion, everyone has rebounded nicely and we should praise God that there weren’t lasting ill effects for anyone, that we each found more suitable partners and the children still have a good relationship with each of us. I am thankful but yet, theres still that nagging feeling that hits me in the dead of night. Kenny says its just guilt and condemnation which is certainly not from God. Hes right. In the end, I’m trusting God to provide the opportunity to speak with my ex if its what is to be. I won’t force the issue but will do so if God makes the way.

Thanks again.
God bless you.
Carol

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 00:23:22 +0000

Carol,
It is right to want to apologize, but your husband or his wife may not approve. Ask your husband what he thinks. If he’s o.k. w/it both of you approach his wife & ask her if it’s o.k. for you apologize to your ex-husband w/your present husband’s accompaniment; even better, if his current wife accompanies you & your husband as you apologize to your ex. God Bless you. Let me know how it goes.