Comments on: Addicted to Porn? http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/ Improving Marriages, One Laugh at a Time Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:14:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Christine http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-18035 Christine Thu, 20 Oct 2011 15:08:40 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-18035 My son will be 17 years old in January and he has been addicted to pornography since about age 13. I have tried to get him help but have been unsuccessful. I have reached out to my pastor, his councelors, state agencies & area hospitals but nobody has programs or knowledge to help him. He does not have internet access at home and has lost priveleges at school which makes it very difficult because much of his classes require the students to do research projects and web-based research essays. I have reached out to Dr. Phil and programs such as Turn About Ranch and Aspen Education group but cannot afford to pay $100,000 for a 9 month program. I want my son and our family to be free from this plague and I want my son to be able to have healthy relationships but I do not know what else I can do! My son will be 17 years old in January and he has been addicted to pornography since about age 13. I have tried to get him help but have been unsuccessful. I have reached out to my pastor, his councelors, state agencies & area hospitals but nobody has programs or knowledge to help him. He does not have internet access at home and has lost priveleges at school which makes it very difficult because much of his classes require the students to do research projects and web-based research essays. I have reached out to Dr. Phil and programs such as Turn About Ranch and Aspen Education group but cannot afford to pay $100,000 for a 9 month program. I want my son and our family to be free from this plague and I want my son to be able to have healthy relationships but I do not know what else I can do!

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]]> By: Kendra http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-13726 Kendra Tue, 16 Aug 2011 21:05:54 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-13726 I loved this article. I've heard the secret hurts of young women and girls who struggle with this issue, so I'm glad you didn't sweep them ubder the rug. But I have a question: how do we help those who are addicted heal? They need God's grace and to run from their sin, but where should we point them? For the marriages healing from the aftermath, what do they do now? For the teens addicted and want help out but feel to dirty to share such sin, how do we help them release their chains? I loved this article. I’ve heard the secret hurts of young women and girls who struggle with this issue, so I’m glad you didn’t sweep them ubder the rug. But I have a question: how do we help those who are addicted heal? They need God’s grace and to run from their sin, but where should we point them? For the marriages healing from the aftermath, what do they do now? For the teens addicted and want help out but feel to dirty to share such sin, how do we help them release their chains?

]]> By: Reba http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-13723 Reba Tue, 16 Aug 2011 19:30:17 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-13723 As a woman who suffered with pornography addiction at a very young age, I 100% agree with this article. I so desperately wish someone would have told me about the dangers and harm it would cause on my future relationships. Unfortunately, now that I am married, I am seeing some of these issues/dangers arise. I would really like to see more materials and help for woman who suffer as it seems help for men is more prevalent, but according to statistics, woman are getting into it more and more. Thanks for sharing this article I pray it will touch lives of many! As a woman who suffered with pornography addiction at a very young age, I 100% agree with this article. I so desperately wish someone would have told me about the dangers and harm it would cause on my future relationships. Unfortunately, now that I am married, I am seeing some of these issues/dangers arise. I would really like to see more materials and help for woman who suffer as it seems help for men is more prevalent, but according to statistics, woman are getting into it more and more. Thanks for sharing this article I pray it will touch lives of many!

]]> By: Mark http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-8780 Mark Thu, 31 Mar 2011 02:37:20 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-8780 Thank you for making great points Mark however I respectfully disagree with one of your suggestions. You wrote that if a woman is dating someone who is/was a porn addict she should dump him. Statistically speaking, women will be left with very little options because the majority of men today, even religious ones, watch porn or masturbate. An alternative suggestion would be that if they are really getting along on deep matters and pornography addiction is at hand, they should seek counseling prior to committing. If the guy refuses, or doesn't really take it seriously then yes I agree that this is a strong ground to dump him. However we shouldn't encourage people to give up on one another that quickly. For those who are in such situations, I highly recommend checking out the Candeo Healthy Sexuality program which helps people recover from sex and porn addictions. You can find info about it here: http://www.pushofhope.com/candeo Thank you for making great points Mark however I respectfully disagree with one of your suggestions. You wrote that if a woman is dating someone who is/was a porn addict she should dump him. Statistically speaking, women will be left with very little options because the majority of men today, even religious ones, watch porn or masturbate.

An alternative suggestion would be that if they are really getting along on deep matters and pornography addiction is at hand, they should seek counseling prior to committing. If the guy refuses, or doesn’t really take it seriously then yes I agree that this is a strong ground to dump him. However we shouldn’t encourage people to give up on one another that quickly.

For those who are in such situations, I highly recommend checking out the Candeo Healthy Sexuality program which helps people recover from sex and porn addictions. You can find info about it here: http://www.pushofhope.com/candeo

]]> By: Diane Brierley for Mark Gungor http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-7750 Diane Brierley for Mark Gungor Tue, 01 Mar 2011 20:21:30 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-7750 Mark addresses this question on the show that will air March 4th. You can listen to the show at 10 am CST that day or anytime after via the podcast/download at www.markgungorshow.com. Mark addresses this question on the show that will air March 4th. You can listen to the show at 10 am CST that day or anytime after via the podcast/download at http://www.markgungorshow.com.

]]> By: Diane Brierley for Mark Gungor http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-7619 Diane Brierley for Mark Gungor Thu, 24 Feb 2011 13:25:10 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-7619 Lynn- Let me know if we can we use your post as a question on Mark's radio show. It's a good one! Lynn-
Let me know if we can we use your post as a question on Mark’s radio show. It’s a good one!

]]> By: Lynn http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-7606 Lynn Thu, 24 Feb 2011 03:09:53 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-7606 Your article on porn / masturbation was right on. I have educated myself because my daughter is engaged to a wonderful Christian man that is a recovering porn addict. Her fiancee meets on a regular basis with his Accountablity Partner, he's going to a Professional Christian Counselor along with my daughter they meet with the couple to help with this issue. Her fiancee does not have cable, internet, at home or on his cell. Her fiancee meets weekly with a dear older Christian man for mentoring. When they get married he will have been out of porn for 3 years. What are your thoughts about this? I don't want my daughter heading for major heartache. I know we all have pasts that God has forgiven us for & shows us mercy. My husband & I are thankful that her fiancee was honest with his past he told us together along with our daughter. They've been together for 16 months now. Engaged 7 months of that time. They're not getting married for another year. Please respond back with your thoughts on this issue regarding my daughter, thanks so much. Her fiancee is very God honoring & has a sold out heart for God! Your article on porn / masturbation was right on. I have educated myself because my daughter is engaged to a wonderful Christian man that is a recovering porn addict. Her fiancee meets on a regular basis with his Accountablity Partner, he’s going to a Professional Christian Counselor along with my daughter they meet with the couple to help with this issue. Her fiancee does not have cable, internet, at home or on his cell. Her fiancee meets weekly with a dear older Christian man for mentoring. When they get married he will have been out of porn for 3 years. What are your thoughts about this? I don’t want my daughter heading for major heartache. I know we all have pasts that God has forgiven us for & shows us mercy. My husband & I are thankful that her fiancee was honest with his past he told us together along with our daughter. They’ve been together for 16 months now. Engaged 7 months of that time. They’re not getting married for another year. Please respond back with your thoughts on this issue regarding my daughter, thanks so much. Her fiancee is very God honoring & has a sold out heart for God!

]]> By: ken http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-7367 ken Sat, 12 Feb 2011 01:24:30 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-7367 I agree that porn can be addictive and destructive. Now, about masturbation. Lisa, you say that "masturbation leads to a lack of intimacy". It sure can. But, lack of intimacy can lead to masturbation. Consider the common situation where the wife's sexual desire is much less frequent than the husband's. Especially when there are several young children in the home and mom is just tired every night. What if the husband has desire twice a week and the wife, once a month? After a few years of that, maybe it is better for the husband to masturbate a little and let the wife get her sleep. Any wives have any thoughts on this? I agree that porn can be addictive and destructive. Now, about masturbation. Lisa, you say that “masturbation leads to a lack of intimacy”. It sure can. But, lack of intimacy can lead to masturbation. Consider the common situation where the wife’s sexual desire is much less frequent than the husband’s. Especially when there are several young children in the home and mom is just tired every night. What if the husband has desire twice a week and the wife, once a month? After a few years of that, maybe it is better for the husband to masturbate a little and let the wife get her sleep. Any wives have any thoughts on this?

]]> By: GR http://www.laughyourway.com/blog/addicted-to-porn/comment-page-1/#comment-6803 GR Wed, 19 Jan 2011 05:11:34 +0000 http://www.laughyourway.com/?p=646#comment-6803 But how can someone masturbate without a single lustful thought? If you don't look at porn, but you are masturbating and thinking about the woman you saw at the store or who you work with, isn't that lust? Imaging sex with someone else other than who you are married with in order to have an orgasm is not lust? But how can someone masturbate without a single lustful thought? If you don’t look at porn, but you are masturbating and thinking about the woman you saw at the store or who you work with, isn’t that lust? Imaging sex with someone else other than who you are married with in order to have an orgasm is not lust?

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